When you talk about vibrators as much as I do you learn all sorts of stuff about people’s preconceived notions. It turns out a lot of people think a lot of things that are just keeping them from taking the leap and trying a vibrator. Here are 5 examples of what I call “vibrator myths” tht really need to stop existing.
- Only weird/hyper-sexual people use vibrators
File this one under “Nice People Don’t Do That”. In actuality people of all types own and use sex toys. Yes, even nice, “respectable” people. It just helps you have fun and allows you to orgasm! Also, no one has to know unless you tell them.
- Using a Vibrator means you are sad and lonely or something is wrong with your relationship
Folks seem to think that if you have a partner and your relationship/sex life is good, there’s no reason to have a vibrator. So. Very. Wrong. Vibrators are tools for enhancing your sex life and that’s enjoyable for anyone single or coupled.
- Introducing a vibrator will make your partner feel bad/inferior
Vibrators and humans are different. Humans can’t vibrate and Vibrators can’t cuddle. If your partner is intimidated by your vibrator explain that to them.
- Using a vibrator will “desensitize” you or make you unable to orgasm without one
First off, some folks need a vibrator to orgasm and that’s okay. Your path to orgasm doesn’t have to involve a “right” or “wrong” way, it can just be a path to orgasm. Secondly, while using a vibrator (especially something like the Magic Wand) can make it easier to orgasm, thus making less powerful ways seem more difficult, there is absolutely no evidence that vibrators “desensitize” people.
- Buying a Vibrator is sooo embarrassing
Lots of folks find even the idea of walking into a sex toy store embarrassing and scary but here’s the thing: the people who work at sex shops are used to being in a sex shop and they can help make your experience just like shopping for anything else. If it’s still overwhelming there are tons of great online sex shops with quality products and discreet shipping. You have options and, contrary to what movies have told you, there won’t be a dramatic record screech sound that causes everyone to stare at you when you publicly buy a vibrator.